ONE DAY

Very excited all of us set off to the girls day out at my friends house. Her house was huge, the

gate was kept open, we walked along the step stones with daffodils on both the sides. They were

as soft as velvet. As I took off my heels and stepped inside, I felt the white marble as cold as

snow. As we take a walk in the house, I hear a sudden scream, calling out my name, next I was

on the floor with about fourteen girls. All of us screaming, laughing and giggling, all of this still

echoing in my ear. After a refreshing swim in that perfectly circular pool we were craving for

food.

As I enter the dining room, all of us stand there shocked, the table over flowing with delicacies.

Salads with fresh green lettuce ,broccoli, carrots, juicy tomatoes, mangoes, apples, fresh juices,

milk shakes, trays filled with slices of pizza, chocolate dripping cakes, brownies, red velvet,

vanilla, chocolate, butterscotch, mango, choco chip and many more flavours of ice creams.

Mouth watering hot dogs, potato chips and pudding. Oh! How could I forget the wine, the blood

red wine before starting off with the meal was a delight. I was in a dilemma I did not know

where to start. Since I was craving for food, I went for the pizza, the cheesy, doughy, saucy,

spicy pizza. The taste of the pizza tickling my taste buds, fulfilling my hunger. The fizz of their

coke being poured into a glass of ice cubes make me thirsty but, I prefer fresh juice over coke.

My attention is caught by the sight of  banana split ice cream, three scoops of ice cream with

split banana on either side and mounted with whipped cream on top laced with chocolate sauce

and sprinkled with chopped nuts. All topped off with a plump red cherry caught my eye.

I wish I could eat all of this, I feel my eyes are bigger than my stomach.

After all of this, we crashed on the couch, took a nap, we woke up to cup of hot coffee, that smell

of roasted coffee beans, there is nothing more I could wish for. We head out to the “chaat vaala”

there we ate the tangy aaloo till I chat, spicy dhoklas and crispy papdi chat. The paani puries are

always my favorite. A hollowed out shell of a mini puri punctured at its crown, stuffed with a

tangy mix of potatoes, meethi chutney and shudderingly sour tamarind water, small enough to be

eaten whole and big to make the whole exercise an example of how food can be such a delicious

fun.

As we walked back to our  homes we  had small pinks of cotton candy.

YOU CHANGE

You find problem in Public Display of Affection? But, you wouldn't mind watching a guy pee on the footpath.

You don't mind boys flirting with girls. But when girls do the same, she's a slut.

You do not have problems if India loses the match in the World Cup, but there's nothing more heartbreaking than watching India losing a match with Pakistan.

You do not mind degrading or passing offensive comments about a lower caste, but would salute the upper caste no matter how bad a criminal he is.

You do not agree to legalize prostitution in India, but you make sure you visit them once in a month.

You do not educate the girl child how to be a better citizen, but you teach her how to become a good wife.

You are not ready to teach the boys not to rape, but you are ready to keep women closed inside the four walls.

You are not ready to spend some amount to help the poor, but your ready to waste money in gambling.

You laugh at transgenders, but you are not ready to see the good side of them.

You ban beef, in the name of animal protection, then what about mutton and pork? 

You ban documentaries which bring about the realities in life, but you are ready to watch porn.

Where do we stand? What are we doing? When we have countless number of social issues, why aren't we taking an action against any of them? What are you waiting for? Our country is secular, democratic and republic, but do we actually enjoy all of these rights? 

You think...

You change...

SOCIAL NETWORKING

Facebook, Whatsapp, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Instagram, YouTube, Gmail...

Can you imagine a life without all of these? 

Social media is everywhere, it has influenced us so much that we cannot manage a day without visiting any of these social networking sites. People are so much into chatting and networking with the unknown people that you often forget to spend time with your friends and family.Most of us have a habit of checking your Facebook every couple of hours, or sometimes even checking the message during an intimate moment. What are these social networking sites doing to us? You forget to admire your wife/ girlfriend who is right beside you but would be very interested to like pictures of random women whom you do not even know. The experience that you will get if you step into the outside is what you are reading in these sites as very valuable information. Yes, it is necessary to keep you relationships alive and active but not at the cost of your family and friends.

Brand advocates, superfans, loyalists--influencers of all stripes--are hyperconnected to their audience. They have a passion for their topic of choice, which means they're always on and use multiple devices to ensure they're connected throughout the day.Six in ten cell owners between the ages of 18 and 34 say that they have slept next to their phone so as not to miss any calls, texts, or other updates during the night. 

Is this true for you too?

Your friendship impacts your buying decisions. Say you are confused between Candy Crush Saga and Farmville 2, will you pick the one for which you had read the reviews or the one your friends are using? Its more likely for us to opt what our friends are using.

It is impossible to avoid internet in this generation. Starting from an assignment a kid gets to complete as his homework to highly confidential meetings uses internet. There are many pros and cons of using the net but we often are too indulged in it that we do not find time for ourselves and our loved ones. Keep it away when you are on a trip, it does not make a difference if you do not put a status on you Facebook profile that you are excited, if you really are you wouldn't find time for all of that. Keep your social networking away and find some time to spend with your family, ultimately you work, you earn, you keep acquaintances active, for the benefit of your family. Spend some valuable moments with them, they need you too. Sometimes, all you need is some space, a clear mind. You need to breathe and relax. When you get too worked up, keep your phone away, go for a brisk walk talk to children, do things you like, you always do not have to make love to your phone or laptop, find time for your partner too.
This is how it works, you've got to manage both of them together. Don't drown in the internet world, find you feet in there. 

ATTENTION PLEASE

I tried hard not to do this but circumstances lead you into scribbling such thoughts which has been in your mind over a long period of time. "Feminism is a collection of movements and ideologies aimed at defining, establishing, and defending equal political, economic, cultural, and social rights for women". This is the definition of feminism, it does not mean feminists are those who portray the male population to be the cruel and pervert crowd.
But yet you find many to laugh at the word "feminist" or stand with their eyebrows raised when you tag yourself to be a feminist.
We have millions of reasons to blame the female who is being sexually abused, raped, murdered or even looked down at.

Why? What on earth is they're fault that you blame them? It is being so common these days that RAPE has turned out to be cliché. Would you respond the same if your wife, sister or daughter falls victim to the same?
It is not her attitude, her dress, her body or anything that she owns which would lead you to rape, it is your mind set.
It is no bloody psychological disorder that leads to rape but the confidence in their mind that there is not going to be a drastic step that costs their life.

You think women do not get attracted towards men or they do not like sexual pleasures? Well... Women do! Everyone does! If you call yourself a human prove that you are one, not just because you own a human body prove it by your behavior.
Are you indirectly implying that women should not be educated? If they are, they should stay at home and not go to work and if they are working, they should not work late hours? Next, when we find a solution for this, you will surely find another problem in society.

So you mean to say that every time YOU i.e., the society finds a problem, the ladies need to change their priorities, decisions and choices.  Who are you to decide what she has to do? She is an individual and has her own likes and dislikes.

"You cannot change the society" a common dialogue that many say, then let me ask you if you don't then who will?

SEX EDUCATION: An issue to be resolved next

And alas the day had come which all of us waited for. I was eleven when the word "sex" was introduced to us in our biology class. Not a single person was absent that day. We were all tittering and chuckling behind our books. My teacher started off with the naughtier parts of the flower and then started with various body parts of a man and a woman. She explained the various changes occurring during puberty, about menstruation,she explained about how a baby was born, every stages of growth and also the various diseases like HIV/ AIDS.

When the chapter was completed, we missed biology. That's when we realized that the whole year we had been waiting for that chapter and now that it is over, there is nothing to talk or giggle about.

Has this situation come in your life?
For many of you it must be embarrassing to say a 'yes'. But I'd say if you've had a situation like this in life then you are lucky. You have been taught and explained about the human body, human physiological changes and moreover about "sex".

Why do hush our voice when we mention this word? Like it's a crime using that word.
If there was no "sex" then there would've been no 'me' to write this article and no 'you' to read this.
These chapters in many schools remain unexplained or a self study topic.
It is then, when wrong ideas come into little minds and they have  misconceptions. This further leads to dangerous moves, be it as a child or even as an adult.
Sex education must be made compulsory in every schools. The uneducated villagers should also be made aware of their body and the body of the opposite sex. Every individual should know the basic bodily processes taking place, the do's and the dont's, the prevention, the diseases and every aspect about sex.

When this is implemented it the schools, negative outcomes such as unwanted pregnancy and infection due to HIV/AIDS can be prevented. Young people can be very interested in the moral and cultural that bind sex and sexuality. Most of the times our views about sex sometimes becomes the 'right' to us later, we try to impose these views on other people. They often welcome opportunities to talk about issues where people have strong views , like abortion, sex before marriage, lesbian, gay and contraception and birth control. We have to note that talking in a balanced way about differences in opinion does not promote one set of views over the other, or that one agrees with a particular view. 

It is also seen that often the people who are involved in educating about sex have certain beliefs, it should be seen that the uneducated are not negatively influenced by these beliefs and thoughts. Effective sex education also provides the young generation with an opportunity to understand the opposite sex better and also know how it involves emotion, and self respect for one self and also for others and also about their feelings and decisions. Now that the rape cases in india is reaching it's peak and also that we realize none of them feel its a mistake, we should make an attempt to educate these underprivileged, so that they know about the importance and ethnicity of sex and also so that women in future do not go through these massacre. 

When we correct one of the social issues we can see that many of the others connected to it also gets resolved automatically. Parents should also make an attempt to be open to their child and not feel embarrassed to talk to their children about sex, it is better that your child has a clear concept about it rather than a bad notion about sex.

YOU ARE AN ADDICT AS WELL

The first sight he has when he opens his eyes is that of an empty bottle of rum, melted ice with water dripping off from the table, waste papers and junk all around the place and his bleeding wife and children.

Is this the life he had imagined? This is how he had thought he'd take care of his family? 

These questions might pop up in the mind of a person who is getting drunk for the first time in his life, but there is no such scene in the life of an alcoholic. Rather, such scenes of beating up the family for no reason, damaging the house, behaving as wild as an animal are symptoms of an alcoholic.

To continue this scenario the person might open up a new bottle, light a new cigarette and maybe wake his family with abusive words. 

In most of the movies, in all languages the reason given for an individual to turn out to become an alcoholic is the tragic incidents happened in his/her life. Alcohol is used to in sadness, in happiness, in anger, in frustration, in pain, in grief, to rejoice, is there any other emotion you could think of? Then, in all of those, alcohol becomes a part. Its more like these offers given by shops, you get an exemplified version of your emotion with a bottle of alcohol free.

What is the use of showing the disclaimer on television shows which says "CONSUMPTION OF ALCOHOL IS INJURIOUS TO HEALTH" which is hardly noticed, when we have advertisements with our famous celebrities who convey a message that the secret success behind everyone of them is this bottle. Be it a local brand used by poverty stricken people or the royal brand which they say is made out of the finest grapes or grains or whatever. The point is, it is alcohol, let us be more specific, it's a depressant, it weakens your nerves, it causes harm not only to you but most of the times to the people around you too.
 

Your friends may call you a "kid" when you tell that you've never consumed alcohol or smoked a cigar. Initially this is the main reason why teenagers get a start of this substance, they "try" for once and this becomes "sometimes" and later "frequently".

People will find different reasons to drink, and once you get addicted to it, it'll be so hard for you and the others as well to get you out of this nasty habit of yours.Alcohol addiction can be fatal.
Yes, alcohol addiction can begin well before you take your first drink. If you have a genetic predisposition to develop addiction or if you have attitudes and perceptions consistent with what the addicts typically exhibit, your alcohol addiction can start before you begin drinking. We also see the high risk sage of alcohol by people. Here, a lot of drinking is involved which results in bad decision making under the influence of alcohol. Also the problematic usage of alcohol gives out negative effects on the user and also the people around them. For many of these people their bottle of wine is more important than food, oxygen or shelter thus, we see many of such people loafing on the streets. They do not realize any of their movements or actions.
You know, I know and everybody else knows that alcohol is doing no good to your health. People are aware with live examples about the result of being an addict. But still we choose the glass of wine over  a glass of juice/water.
We need to help ourselves to get out of this. Each one of us is an addict, we like watching drunk people singing crazy songs and dancing at hilarious beats, we like watching celebrities advertising this bottle of success (alcohol), we like to bribe the higher authorities with some gift (alcohol), we like to help our depressed friend who's girlfriend just ditched him by giving him some support(alcohol), even if you do not use the word, or even if you do not consume it, you are still encouraging and enjoying the presence of alcohol around you.

YOU ARE AN ADDICT AS WELL!

DO OR DIE

We are not sure ourselves what we want and what we don't. When we find advertisements which use women on their posters as models with mere clothing, we find the society retaliating against the vulgar representation of woman. And being in India, a country where most of the things are related to tradition, culture and religion, it becomes very hard for many of us to accept this. We cannot stop but look at these advertisements with a look of disgust and leave cheap comments. 

Now my question is, why do these people go for modelling then? When they already know that they would have to flaunt their bodies in the public through photographs, advertisements, movies, etc.

 I'm not defaming modelling but its a true fact that models work a lot on their bodies, and even more to maintain it. And when you have very good features, why not flaunt it? One hand we claim that women have all the rights to do whatever she wants on the other we tell them to stop  using their bodies to advertise any product. 

Isn't this a personal choice?

When we blame a company for an advertisement which appears to be vulgar to you, we should consider the fact that it is the hard work of many people (including women) behind the camera and the model herself to bring out an advertisement like that.  

Now let us talk about the vulgar advertisements been displayed by men. In this Diesel advertisement they are selling a satchel for men. With the woman's arm reaching into the bag it is portraying that men will be sexually desired by women if they buy this satchel. Isn't this also a way of defaming the men? Then why do we always talk about women? 

It is not that there has never been such advertisements or movies in the past. It has always been there and banning of vulgar advertisements is also a repeated episode from the past. The main point being made here is, we ourselves do not know what we want. Sometimes we ask for the freedom to be what we are, wear what we want and do what we like. At the same time when some other woman wears what she wants and does what she likes, then this becomes a topic of discussion.

Let us consider two hypothetical situations. A society which can make its a choice and do what it wants, that would include from the most so called "clean" contents to the most vulgar stuff. When we go by this rule, think about the little kids and also the adolescents who are highly influenced by the media, the society and their friends. When such contents are being released they might have the tendency to be the bad one or know the reality of life way before than they should know. This would make them more matured than they are supposed to be .You wouldn't want a small kid to use swear words or talk adult stuff, there wouldn't be innocence left in them anymore. But they should be educated about "sex" and not be ashamed of it, educate every child about human body and its functions. 

This society gives you the freedom to make a movie however you want,show the realities happening in the society, portray yourself however you like, make songs with a lyrics of your choice. Do you want to be part of such a society?

Or would you opt for a society which abides by the "Indian Culture" which claims to be neat and respectable. Are you sure that every citizen of our country will follow all the norms set by our government? And even if this happens can you be sure that there would be no more corruption, eve teasing, theft, smuggling or rapes in India? Can you assure a safe India? Equality among every individual in our country? No discrimination on caste or gender. Can you assure a kind and helping society? But here the child has to figure out what sex means and how it works. Girls should be taught to stay at home and if at all she wants to work she should keep in mind not to wear jeans. Don't even think of working late night. Hush the little girls if they are being molested by elders.

Where do you want to be? If you opt to be the part of the first society, you shouldn't have a problem when your sibling or your daughter wears a saree at wedding, how the film stars wear it, exposing most of their waist and one of their covered breasts. 

If you opt to be the part of the second then girls, don't you dare make boy friends because it is not according to our "Indian Culture".

YOU DECIDE!

What impression are we making of our country to the people outside? 

Do what you want to do to achieve your goals in life or die being the part of the "Indian Culture" made up by the criminals of the Tihar Jail.